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Do people who have children find those who decide not to have children a threat?

I never had children, I'm a healthy woman in her mid fifties, have had a good career and can now travel all I like as I work wherever my laptop is (digital nomad). I have had a couple of relationships but neither I felt, sufficiently stable to form a family so I decided to focus on career and retire early (now semi-retired, hence all the travel). I notice that those friends and family who have young or adolescent children do not contact me any longer. We meet maybe once, when I'm home and then they exclude me from get-togethers. One told me that I didn't know what hard work was (she obviously has a short memory as I was slaving for professional exams all through my 20s while she was living it up with her then boyfriend, now husband..they have 3 children and she works too). Another one told me she has to work even after she comes home to her 2 little toddlers (answer emails etc.). She also said when I was away last time 'I envy you so much!'

Do you think they feel I'm a threat or they just feel I won't understand their lives?
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  • Define threat? NO would be my short answer

    " I notice that those friends and family who have young or adolescent children do not contact me any longer. "

    They are busy, but the fact is all older people see less and less of old friend’s children or not ..

    You are overly sensitive and yet also over analyze it,,, they are busy you are busy and time schedules do not meet
    While I disagree with the complaints (excuses) from people raising children that other people do not know how hard it is,,, They choose and now complain Maybe they choose poorly and Jealous of your freedom not threatened

    YET you are the one pining for company while they have more company than they want (children and family)

    The fact you choose not to look until you found a proper mate
    “but neither I felt, sufficiently stable to form a family so I decided to focus on career and retire early (now semi-retired, hence all the travel)."
    NOTE there are tons of men who would be glad to never have children ,,, why do you not have one and retired travel with him ...

    yet now are upset you are lonely -- self created yet you still do not get it.

    if it makes you feel better many people feel lonely who have children SOME tired of family and alone in a crowd and others ignored by family. Some children and grandchildren only come by to ask for money

    the real problem is you choose your path and now regret being without and mate, Well lots of older single again men who would have you if you are fiscally well off and a sex ready machine..... I assume part of your career and no mate was because sex was not a need for you .... so again not related to having children

    But it is sheer nonsense that not having children makes you unhappy any more than having children is a guarantee you will be happy
    Christina Lyons · 3 0
  • No I don’t really care if those that don’t want children as a threat obviously it’s their life and not mines 🤷🏿‍♀️
    shiddy634life · 0 2
  • I wouldn't think they would view you as a threat - it's just a different lifestyle, perhaps not so compatible.
    All hat · 3 9
  • No
    Valleycat1 · 0 4

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